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Making Marriage Work: Let's Get Away From It All by DerBingle 0 votes vote Many couples look at spouses that have been married a long time and vow that it will never happen to them. The whole humdrum predictability of the relationship has squeezed the romance out of a lot of marriages while at the same time bringing them to a grinding halt. And then without realizing it, the same couples fall victim. It's not like they went out of their way to make it happen. In their opinion they did everything possible to fight it off. The problem is it is so easy to fall into the trap. Naturally in a relationship there has to be a certain amount of routine. After all you need to pay the rent or mortgage so the two of you have to go to work. Then if you have kids you have to attend to their needs on a regular basis until they are old enough to fend for themselves. Of course there are other obligations within and outside of the relationship that require your attention more often than you would probably like. Add to the fact that you only have twenty four hours in a day which means your time is limited to get things done. Also we are human and can only do so much before our bodies demand that we rest. In going from one obligation to another, it is not too hard to figure out why marriages can effortlessly fall into a rut. Life intrudes and it can be a chore finding a way to make time for yourself let alone share quality time with your spouse. Sometimes the answer is to shake things up a bit and one of the best ways is to be impulsive. Both of you have accumulated enough sick or vacations days from your respective jobs. Use them periodically. Don't just wait for that annual two week vacation to your regular travel destination; take a day or two off, hop into a car and go. Where? Whatever direction your car is pointed in. Too scary? Then pick out a place the two of you have never been, go online and do some research. If you go this route then make sure the two of you are doing this together. You work on one phase while your spouse takes the other. Call each other at work and share what you have learned. This can get the two of you really fired up about going. Do not wait too long and spend an inordinate amount of time planning. Taking too much time has a way of planting the seeds of doubt which makes it easier to find excuses as to why you can't go. There is going to be a certain amount of routine in every marriage relationship. That's fine. Stability is important. But stability does not mean that fun and excitement get put on a shelf until an opportunity presents itself. That may never happen so it is important for you and your spouse to take the initiative and create those opportunities as much as possible. That's a routine that can keep your marriage enjoyable for years to come. About the Author Article written by Daryl Campbell. What is the number one way to make sure your marriage last? Find out at The Relationship Tip

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Stop Your Divorce - Simple Ways to Save Your Marriage! by Sabrina Werles 0 votes vote Most marriages start alike - happy, fun, and jovial. Then setbacks happen in life, and a many marriages have a rough time coping with the difficulties they must now deal with. You CAN work through this! It does NOT have to result in a divorce! So, how is it possible to stop your divorce - save your marriage? As long as you are NOT in an abusive relationship, (physical or mental), your marriage should be saved. With today's terrible financial difficulties, and lifestyles that don't allow for much family time, it's no wonder that some marriages suffer with hard times. But it doesn't need to be this way! Human nature makes us want to get out of any setting that makes us feel depressed - feeling hurt, unhappy, angry, and so on. That's why more than half of marriages suffer divorce. Don't let your marriage to turn out to be part of the statistics - you have to stop your divorce and save your marriage! To save your marriage, both partners must to sit down and discuss what's going on. Both partners have to decide what's going on with your marriage. This talk cannot be one-sided! Once you have talked about it, and figured out what's happening to bring down your marriage, you can start to fix the problem or problems. Working with each other is not the only way, but it is the best way to stop your divorce - save your marriage. When your marriage was happy, you were both in high spirits. When times get rough, you both must be strong, and you simply have to support one another. By doing this, your marriage can and WILL be great again! About the Author You simply can't put it off any more! You MUSThttp://hubpages.com/hub/stop-your-divorce-save-your-marriage Get your marriage back on the right path! Bookmark this article: DropJack! | del.icio.us | Furl | Technorati | Blinklist | Reddit | Mister Wong | Everywhere Else

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Save Your Christian Marriage Review by Jessica Andrews 0 votes vote Hardship in marriages appear despite the religion or race you fall upon. So finding the right guidance on how you're able to overcome your relationship problems can be tough. Just as well there is an e-book out there entitled Save Your Christian Marriage which goes through many of the frequent problems Christian couples endure. For a really great Save Your Christian Marriage Review, check out Save Your Christian Marriage by Lee H Baucom According to this guide, other solutions are to be explored first before even considered getting divorced. Trying to avoid a divorce, is viewed as a negative use of your energy force, and instead couples is recommended to instead look at gearing up their positive energy and directing it to creating a relationship that will honor God. Your spouse and you will need to exert a substantial amount of effort and be determined to work towards some personal change in order for this to be able to become a reality. Basing his approach on bible principles, the author has discarded traditional approaches usually utilized in marriage counseling which you will find elsewhere. Starting with a common life direction with each other is suggested in Save Your Christian Marriage having a direct outline following shared goals. Though there isn't a heap of bible verse within Save Your Christian Marriage, it is more based on Christian marriage principles with some verse sprinkled within. This guide is based more on mis-perceptions believed to be where crisises start. Instead of like most marriage counseling which typically focuses closely on improving communication skills. As referred to in biblical terms, what you should understand is that it is not just about yourself or your spouse but rather it needs to be a combined effort. Having decided to make a commitment that together you plan on building the absolute best marriage humanly possible that's when a lot of the things which were at the start important to you, will eventually begin to seem less important. After getting past the 'myself' and 'you' being separate beings and shifting towards the 'we', individual strengths prevail which you can use to compliment your partner. If you find that the both of you are always arguing, you will find that there are ways on how to bring back the serenity again. Save Your Christian Marriage will reveal to you exactly how to put first what will most likely be better for your marriage and not what you personally wish for. Churches can also play a role in getting your relationship back on the right track again by sharing guidance and support. I trust that you liked this article, I also have reviews of some great products that you might want take a look at here: Best Relationship Rescue Guides About the Author Jessica Andrews has been in a loving relationship for the past 2.5 years, thanks largely to the guides she has used and reviewed. She is now committed to ensuring that other couples reap the same benefits in which a healthy loving relationship can offer. Save Your Christian Marriage Review is just one of the many guides she has reviewed. Bookmark this article: DropJack! | del.icio.us | Furl | Technorati | Blinklist | Reddit | Mister Wong | Everywhere Else

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Can Your Relationship Survive an Affair? Should You Stay or Should You Go? by Sharon Rivkin 0 votes vote Few things put as much strain on a marriage as an affair. When we see affairs exposed in very public ways, played out in the news involving politicians, celebrities and athletes, we all cringe and say "that will never happen to me." In reality, it happens to a lot of couples, rich or poor, beautiful or not. Infidelity is an equal opportunity relationship buster. Finding the Seed of the Affair When couples struggling with an affair come to me, I tell them no matter what the circumstances, an affair never happens out of the blue. It's actually an extreme symptom of a relationship that's been in trouble for some time. I also tell them an affair is a powerful catalyst that can either end their relationship or take it to a greater level of intimacy. Even an affair that seems starkly one-sided isn't. It always takes two to dance the dance of a relationship and to create unresolved issues. Though to some this may sound almost blasphemous, the truth is, every affair has two victims. When the issues come out in the open, the couple has a chance to stop the victim cycle, and each person can begin to take responsibility for their own wounds. I've found the best way to get to the heart of a couple's issues, is to ask them about their first argument as a couple. Usually, there's stunned silence and puzzled looks. For them, the affair is the only relevant issue. It's as though a fire has burned all the oxygen and left them no breath for talking about anything else. But I find that in almost all cases, in that first argument, they'll find the root of their struggles as a couple and the seed of the affair. To Stay or Go Why do some marriages not only survive, but they actually grow in the wake of an affair? Couples who make it through are determined to look at themselves and not just to cast blame on their partner. They recognize that the affair arose as a symptom of long-standing problems between the two of them. They have a strong desire to make their relationship work. They understand that the work will not be quick and easy and they adopt a realistic time frame. Deep down, they know they have a genuine love for one another. If both partners sincerely work on the relationship, glimmers of hope will spring up all along. For most people, however, it seems to take at least a year to move through the full cycle of renewal. When couples don't stay together, it has less to do with the particular circumstances of the affair than with the couple's long-term history, and with their willingness and ability to explore it. Sometimes it seems the reservoir of resentment and hostility is just too overwhelming, and that so much damage has been done that there is little left to salvage. When one partner cannot or will not do anything to change damaging behavior, then the only solution may be for the other partner to leave. To stay in a relationship in which one continues to be hurt reflects a belief that one deserves no better. It's not a failure or a sign of weakness to leave a destructive relationship. Rather, it's a sign of success and strength in oneself and heightened self-esteem. There is no "right" way to deal with an affair: some couples stay together, some couples separate. No matter what the eventual outcome, an affair challenges both partners to look at themselves and their relationship in a radically new way. About the Author A licensed therapist for over 28 years, Sharon M. Rivkin, MA, MFT, is the author of The First Argument: Cutting to the Root of Intimate Conflict and developer of the "First Argument Technique," a groundbreaking method that heals and saves relationships. For more info go to http://www.sharonrivkin.com Bookmark this article: DropJack! | del.icio.us | Furl | Technorati | Blinklist | Reddit | Mister Wong | Everywhere Else

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Courtesy And Manners Between Couples by Timothy Kolawole

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Courtesy and manners should be part and parcel of every married couple's lives, but these social niceties are ignored or even sneered at today. Believe it or not, courtesy is timeless because it's based on the Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Good manners never go out of style, no matter how many silly sitcoms you watch on TV. Unfortunately, courtesy and manners seem to be a dying art. If your husband lacks these qualities, the obvious time to discuss your differences was before the marriage. Now that you have said your "I dos", what should you do? When my mother insisted that we always wear a shirt at mealtime, refrain from putting our elbows on the table, say please to one another, and use good manners in our treatment of each other, she remarked, "You will never be in better company than the company you are in right now." I am most grateful for her insistence upon these things because I married a woman who enjoys courtesy and politeness. I am inclined to believe that most women do. A woman likes to be treated like a lady; therefore, a husband should continue giving his wife "preferential treatment" after they are married. It is a wise husband who opens doors, including car doors, for his wife and generally treats her as a gentleman should treat a lady. You will be making an investment in your wife's happiness and self-respect, which will increase her love for you. Since love begets love, this is one of the best investments you can make in your marriage. Once while holding a family conference in a church, I announced that during the next evening's session I would tell men "how to get your wife to treat you like a king," For some strange reason, we had our largest crowd the next night. "Are you ready to know how to get your wife to treat you like a king?" "Yes!" I heard hundreds of male voices say. "Then treat her like a queen!" My advice startled some of the men for its simplicity, but it works.

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